Marie, who uses she/she pronouns, struggled to find a dress that fit her size and was “red carpet ready.”
“I have to show myself,” Marie said in the Oct. 27 video.
Marie, a 2022 Georgia Author of the Year Award winner, is a black queer poet, essayist, and activist from Atlanta. Last year, Marie published a first collection of poetry entitled “Gumbo Ya Ya” which explores “race, gender, desire and violence in the lives of black gxrls”.
“My goal is to tell our stories honestly, no matter how intricate and complex they are,” Marie told Out magazine in her awards ceremony. “There is so much freedom in all this chaos.”
After 10 years of writing, the author was honored on this year’s Out100 list, which is given annually to the 100 most influential members of the LGBTQ+ community. Lizzo was a 2020 award winner on the list.
“I know you know what it feels like to be the biggest B—- in the room and all the scrutiny and hyper-visibility that comes with it because I saw you talk about it,” Marie continued in the TikTok video. “I figured the worst thing you could say is no. I hope not.”
Lizzo said yes, fulfilling Marie’s wish. About a week after Marie posted the video asking about the dress, they received a message from one of Lizzo’s managers who said the pop star shared the TikTok video and would “love to do it.”
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And just in time for the Out100 honorees’ induction ceremony on Friday, Marie wore the artist’s floor-length fuchsia dress from the 2019 American Music Awards.
Lizzo was worried about sending her Emmys dress, she said in a TikTok video posted Friday, because she ripped it.
“I had to think fast,” Lizzo said. “My AMAs dress was very similar to my Emmys dress and honestly just as cute. So I found it in my warehouse, had it cleaned and shipped it.”
The dress arrived at Marie’s 20 minutes before she left for New York for the Out100 celebration. In another video showing the dress, Marie said they “got a few tears” on the dress.
Years before they asked about Lizzo’s dress, Marie wrote an essay for Teen Vogue after the singer, a longtime advocate of self-love and body positivity, received criticism for an outfit she wore to a Los Angeles Lakers game.
A video of Lizzo twerking in her outfit, a t-shirt dress with a cleavage at the back, at a game in December 2019 had gone viral, drawing in negative comments about her body and clothing choices.
“I’ve spent too long hating Lizzo for forcing me to see myself, but I’m grateful for her boldness and willingness to bear the burden this world is making of her body,” Marie wrote in the essay. “She should, like all of us, be allowed to exist gloriously as herself without fear of being discarded.”
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Mary Chayko, a professor of communications and information at Rutgers University, told the Washington Post that social media has helped create feelings of intimacy and connectedness with other users, including celebrities. Interactions like likes, shares, and comments, she said, help reinforce those feelings.
“It’s really not surprising that virality works this way because it really touches something inside of us that makes us feel really good and makes us feel like we’re really connected,” Chayko said. “So people feel connected to each other and to the celebrity.”
In her videos, in which she tells fans what happened to the dress along with a range of items from her shapewear line, Yitty, Lizzo said she’s “always scrolling” on TikTok and watching the videos where people are mark them.
“I didn’t know if they got it, but you got it and you look absolutely beautiful,” Lizzo said, addressing Marie directly after sharing the story with her followers.